A lot of people like to change themselves when they get into relationships. To a certain extent, that’s understandable. After all, if you really care about someone, you should be willing to put in some effort to make it work. That said, there’s a huge difference between making compromises and changing who you fundamentally are to please another person.
“I don’t want you to give up your life, I just want to have you in mine.” – Harry, from Secret Diary of a Call Girl, Episode 4.8
If you’re in a relationship, you need to love the other person for who they are. And you need to feel comfortable with who you are.
“And I can’t love him and ask him to be someone different.”- Kari, from If Only by Cherise Sinclair
Being in a relationship and being true to yourself should never be mutually exclusive.
This applies to every kind of relationships, not just romantic relationships. I’ve found that in all my relationships, I try to change myself to be more like what I think the other person wants from me. Sometimes, I’ve found that they really just wanted me to by myself and that they’d truly love me for who I am. There were, however, times when I knew that being who I am meant losing the relationship. It’s sad when that happens, but I’m starting to see that a relationship like that is never going to work out and is only going to hurt me in the end. It’s sad, but I just have to let those toxic relationships go.