This post has no focus. Whatsoever. You have been warned.
I’m probably the last person on Earth who should be writing about Valentine’s Day, considering that I’ve never been looked at by a guy, much less had someone to celebrate a very relationship-oriented holiday with. That said, it being my blog and all, I’m going to say my $0.02 worth anyways.
Around Valentine’s Day, I see people around me giving gifts to their significant others… There are a lot of chocolates, flowers, special dinners. It seems people feel somehow more compelled to be nice to their significant other on this one day, but why not let them know how special they are to you every day? Why not be spontaneous and pick a random day to do something special and fun? Show up on their doorstep with chocolates and a good movie on a cold January morning, or bring them flowers and take them to an amusement park on a sunny day in July. I’m not saying that celebrating Valentine’s Day with a loved one is bad, but celebrating one day doesn’t mean it’s okay to not make your relationship a priority the other 364.25 days of the year, which is what too many people seem to do.
Enough about relationships… If you’re like me and chronically single on this holiday where it feels like everyone around you has found someone, know that being single doesn’t mean you’re unloveable. Go out and celebrate your freedom, and spend the day showing yourself how special you are. Or spend the day complaining about how love is overrated. Whatever works for you.
I kind of wanted to end with something written by Sam at mommadeankat.tumblr.com because she says it better than I ever could.
Hey fellow aces and to all on the romantic spectrum.
You are not weird and there is nothing wrong with you if you don’t have a Valentine this Friday (or any day really). I know that day gets really uncomfortable for a lot of people in our spectrums due to the BLAST OF SEX AND ROMANCE everywhere even more than usual and everyone going around all up in everyone’s biz about who’s dating and why aren’t you. Not to mention a million other things that make us uncomfortable on this day. Shoosh people who feel pity for you if you’re single. Dating actually isn’t the most important thing in the universe. Don’t let anyone try and pressure you into doing anything you’re not comfortable with (this goes to everyone tbh). To heck with people who make fun of you for not wanting a sexual/romantic relationship. A romantic/sexual/etc relationship isn’t for everyone. It really isn’t. You deserve respect for your choices and your orientation and your label and your comfort.
Also, Valentine’s can be about platonic love for our friends and people we have squishes on etc. I don’t think that kind of love gets enough attention.
Celebrate or don’t. And to everyone please respect others.
Regardless eat lots of yummy food!